I am writing this as we approach the new year but this post is applicable no matter when you may come across this as I am not someone who believes we need to wait for a day on the calendar to make changes and set intentions in our life.  That can happen ANY and everyday of the year. But, I also do love pausing, looking forward and reflecting back to see what I actually do want and what I don’t in the new year.

So this may be a new year exploration post but, it is really a post to serve you whenever you find it.  And whether you haver goals, intentions, resolutions, what have you’s this post will support you in getting deeper into your why’s for those or may also help you create ones that are more true and aligned for you.

Last week, I sat down not even thinking about the approaching new year and this came out of me.

I posted it on my personal Instagram and it went VIRAL, I think I can officially use that word because DREW freaking BARRYMORE posted  it and so many more people that I can’t even keep track.  And that feels amazing! To have my words out in the world so big and have so many people resonate with them BUT it is especially profound that it is THESE words.

That masses of amazing individuals worldwide are seeing this and feeling this and I truly hope that you do too.

I want you to be a YES to you, and that is going to mean saying NO more, even to awesome things so that you can take the best care of yourself.
Stop telling yourself you don’t have time for what you WANT and actually MAKE the time.  Which means you will have to say NO to some of the things you have been doing and filling your time with but it will be worth it.

Also, know that you are allowed to say NO to something without having or giving an explanation.  You are allowed to say even if you have the availability to say YES.  You are allowed to say NO even if you have previously always said yes to this same thing or same person.  You are allowed to say no.

I want you to allow yourself to rest.  Even if you still have dishes to do, emails to return, todo’s on your list.  Even if it looks like everyone else is hustling their asses off and you feel you need to do more and be more.  You can’t do more and be more if you aren’t actually rested and taking care of yourself.  You will crash hard and end up taking steps back or you won’t really be showing up fully for all the things you are hustling to do and be anyways. And if you aren’t able to show up as your best and as the person you want to be known as, then what is the point?  And I don’t want you to feel guilt or shame for resting or “doing nothing” because that cancels out the rest.  So, don’t just try to rest but see and feel that rest is freaking luxurious and glamorous and you are worthy of it and you need it to be your best self for you and for others. Allow yourself to recharge regularly so that can truly be  a vessel for creativity, inspiration, service and more!

I want you to come back home to yourself. This one only you can really know what that means for you.  But, I have a feeling reading it, and saying it feels like a big exhale.

It is safe to be the true you and it is so necessary.  Perhaps that means clearing our physical belongings you have acquired that you know are just not for you. Perhaps that means to stop doing things that you don’t feel good doing but you kept doing because you see others doing and it works for them so eventually it will work for you to, right?  Perhaps that means to listen to that voice deep within that you have been quieting and ignoring because you are afraid to make the changes.

If you are with me for these intentions then make some time to think  about and even better journal about what this means to you.  And if the idea of journaling immediately turns you off or you just now you won’t make time for it. You can do this just be thinking of single words.  No need to write out sentences and paragraphs just jot down single words.There is no right way or one way, I just find writing actually makes it more real and intentional.

MAKE THE CHOICE, TO MAKE THE TIME.  
Even 5 minutes.
You can make 5 minutes!
Commit to 5 minutes today to explore what this means to you.

What do you know you need to say NO to more?
What do you know you want to be a YES to?
Where can you see that you will MAKE time for more rest?
What does that luxurious, glamorous rest look like and feel like to you?
What do you know you are ready to let go of and stop doing?
What do you want to leave behind?
How do you want to feel?
What does coming back home to yourself mean and feel like to you?

This is your life.  This all for you and only you to define for yourself and guess what? It is allowed to change.  You are allowed to change.  Your desires, your yes’s, your no’s, what feels good to you will change.  Allow it to.  Just please listen to YOU.   Come back home to yourself.  It may take a lot of layers to be stripped back, it may take months or years, but it is worth it and you will know when you are on the right path for you.

Trust yourself.  Allow yourself to see yourself.  Allow yourself to be yourself.

Again, this isn’t something that has to just be done to welcome in a new calendar year and really this is something to keep considering and coming back to, to remind yourself of who you are and how you want to treat yourself.

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COME HANG WITH ME!