Last week, floating out of a yoga class feeling the most incredible mix of relaxation and rejuvination, I got present to the fact that many people out there have no idea that feeling this amazing exists. I myself had forgotten it existed, not because I felt like crap before class, but actually because in fact, before class I felt pretty damn good. This got me pondering as to how we as people can be stunting our own growth and happiness, because we simply already “think” we feel great or good enough.
I flashed back to last year when one of my best friends told me she wasn’t interested in attending an amazing workshop that I had recently gone to because she is already “good”. “I already have a positive outlook on life, I don’t really stress, I am happy”, she said, “so I don’t think I need it”.
What was getting in the way of her attending this transformational workshop was WHAT SHE DIDN’T KNOW, SHE DIDN’T KNOW. Prior to taking the workshop myself, I too was “good”, great in fact. I was already known to be and I felt inside that I was one of the most positive people around. I already enjoyed every moment, but I also knew and still know that there is always room for growth. There is always more to uncover, there is always learning to be had. It wasn’t that I thought my friend “needed” to take the workshop, that there was something wrong with her, just like there was nothing wrong with me or wrong with you, but WHY NOT take it?
I had signed up for the workshop, for the same reason I do many things, I said to myself “WHY NOT?” If I like it, I like it, if I don’t, I don’t. Either way, I won’t know until I try. I was not searching for this workshop or one like it, I found it via a friend who had taken it. Like me, he was already I true lover of life pre-workshop, but when he came out he was on fire in a new way. So, I said, well, WHY NOT. I didn’t know what I would get out of it, I really wasn’t looking to get anything out of it, but I was open to it and open to see what showed up.
This WHY NOT mindset of mine applies to all areas of my life, whether it be a food, exercise, music, a book, on and on and on. This doesn’t mean that I am constantly searching, but that I am open, that I don’t put up walls, and that I am aware that WHAT I DON’T KNOW, I DON’T KNOW exists.
I am completely happy and content each day, but not in a way that cuts off room for growth. I leave space and stay open to all that life has to offer. I get that you may be happy or good in your life right now, YAY for you, right! But, let this be a reminder that growth of all kinds is available to you, even if you don’t think you need it.
Totally true! This is a PRINCIPLE of my life! Soooo good that you brought it up and wrote about it, using the examples that you did. Curiosity is a huge part of what I consider ‘the spice’ in life. There’s always something new to learn, know about, discover, appreciate, challenge what you thought you knew before…and this is coming from someone with gradute level work(a while back) in an area of science, where paradigms get broken faster and faster, in our ‘information age’.
So looking forward to keeping up with you in 2011. Hope your New Year and New Decade will be joyously transformative for you and your Readers. Sending love, Tricia, Elizabeth
I think this article is amazing and i’m totally on the same level that you are. Its great to know that! I always go to workshops about things I already know about, it never hurts to know more! I love learning more because like most things you realize you still got more to learn =D