You know that saying about how change can only happen when you finally get sick of your own shit?

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

I think this is where I got that idea from and such a true statement! And, yeah…I am in that right now.

I want to redesign my life.  I want to make more time for what I want, for the visions I have, for that big, big, big full picture dream that I see.  This sort of kicking my own butt is something I have done several times over the years but I admit now with two little ones and not much help it is more of a challenge.  But, it is not impossible!

I know there is a part of me that wants more attention, more connection, more spaciousness and in order for me to nurture that side I am going to have to be even more structured, organized and committed.   Yep, that’s right in order to create more spaciousness in my life I need to get more structure.

I am a  MAJOR believer in the idea that:

We have time for what we make time for.

Even if it is small bits of time.  I also know that I don’t necessarily want to fill up my hours more resulting in non-stop work, late nights and early mornings every day.  BUT that I want to be smarter and more efficient with how I do everything.

To be clear I am proud of how I have been navigating being a mom of two littles and running my business and taking care of me…but there is still more I want to work on.

Here are a few changes I plan to implement this week:

One habit I have that I am ready to break is to have the TV on in the background while I do a little more work in the evenings.  I started this as it felt like I was relaxing and unwinding, treating myself even as I got a little more work done after putting the kids to bed.  But, what I now see is that I don’t work as efficiently as I could be.  Sure maybe I work for two hours a night, but I get more distracted even if it is a show I have seen before and is really just background.  I am not as focused as I could be.

So, this week I am going to try a new way.  I am going to commit to doing just one hour of work with music as the background at night.  And honestly some nights I may give myself the “Just 30 minutes” ploy if I am putting it off or feeling too tired.  A part of me is fighting this because breaking habits is challenging but honestly I am pretty energized by this idea and I know it is possible and will likely create a way more productive me!

I am bringing back my magic timer cube (using it right now as I write) that I mentioned in this productivity blog I wrote to limit distractions and jumping around.  I honestly kind of forgot about it and it really helps me to stay on task. My mind is busy and I tend to want to jump around to things I think of but I know I work best when I do one thing at a time!

Getting out of the Instagram scrolling blackhole.  I love Instagram.  It is a great way to connect with others and get inspiration. I love getting food ideas there! But, it can definitely be a time suck.  Often I open it up after getting the kids down and allow myself to scroll or catch up on stories….and if I am not careful sometimes thirty freaking minutes goes by!
I also sometimes open the app by accident and lose a few minutes here and there.  How by accident? I will get my phone out to write a note in a google doc, open my baby monitor app, or some other task and I am so used to going to the Instagram icon I naturally hit it and then lose a few minutes before remembering why I picked up my phone in the first place!

So, I am going to try some boundaries.  After I put the kids to bed I will set a timer for 5 minutes to allow myself this little social media break and then when it goes off I will get to work or my work out or whatever I have designated that night.  I can do another 5 minute check in after my tasks if I want.  As for the accidental opens I am not sure what my tactic will be yet, I am open to suggestions!  But also creating this new intention will hopefully keep me to task.  I know I will have to figure this one out more but I am starting first with that big chunk that often happens at night!

I also am going to get back on the meal prep train.  I have still been making batches of roasted veggies, always having greens on hand, doing some breakfast prep with overnight oats, or healthy baked goods (loving the baked oatmeal from my girl Robyn’s new book.  I also got into the practice of prepping lunches now that I use a babysitter a few days a week and I am loving these little plates

While I have been keeping up my commitment to exercise and mostly am still using Lekfit.  I know it is really time to start adding yoga back in.  I have said this last month on Instagram  and I will be honest it didn’t last!  Not because it didn’t feel great I just wasn’t making the time for it, even though I had told myself just 5 minutes or 5 sun salutes was all I was aiming for each day.  I know now that I work best with routines.  So that I need to pick a time of day to make it happen.  If I just say I will do 5 minutes each day….it likely won’t happen.  Ideally I would love to have this first thing in the morning or at night, but night time yoga has never been my thing and most days Arrow still wakes me up and then it is nonstop until nap time.

As much as I freaking love my sleep and already wake up early…. I am going to try to do it first thing before I get Arrow this week!  I know I can do it, but again….I have been fighting it so hard!  I think to set myself up for success I am going to set up a yoga spot right in my bedroom and even leave my iPad or laptop set up with a Yogaglo session or Youtube video ready to go.  Even 5 minutes will do me wonders I know…but I have been saying this for months and not doing it.  Again….sick of my own bullshit!  I can do this!  I will do this!  I am doing this!

There are even more parts of my day I want to edit and fine tune but I am going to start with these too try not to overwhelm myself.  But the main intention is to limit multi-tasking.  It feels like we can get more done when we multi-task but I want to focus down on each thing on hand, including my kids.  I want to be even more present so that means I have to be more productive in the times they are asleep or with a sitter.

Creating new habits, routines, and mindsets takes work, takes commitment and time BUT it can be done and it can be done at any time.  No matter how much money, responsibility, and work you have YOU CAN make changes. And it all starts with believing that you can!

Is there an area of your life that you want to make changes?

Starting your mornings more centered?
Getting more sleep?
Taking better care of yourself?
Allowing yourself to have open space to think, be, create?
Let go of a relationship/friendship that weighs you down?

Whatever it is.  I am sure you have been feeling it for a while but have been putting it off because we get so used to our habits we sometimes don’t even realize we are in them!

What is one habit you want to break or create?  Comment here, send me a DM or comment on my latest Instagram post! You got this!

COME HANG WITH ME!